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The mission of the Children First Foundation is to help children and caregivers effectively adapt to divorce, separation, custodial conflict, and visitation exchange issues by creating services and products that address these issues.

Welcome to Children First Foundation

In 1985 the Family Division Judges of Illinois’ 20th Judicial Circuit formed a Task Force to address the alarming increase in post-decree court appearances in custody divorce cases. It had been determined that at least 75% of the Judges’ time was being spent on post-divorce activities. The Task Force, comprised of circuit court judges, St. Clair County attorneys and mental health professionals spent three years seeking solutions that might reduce this case overload. During this period (in addition to addressing the court’s issues), the Task Force arrived at a significant conclusion—–children were the silent victims of drawn-out custody battles. An effort began to develop an educational curriculum that would help “prepare” parents for typical problems families encounter during the divorce and post-divorce process. If parents were informed, the thinking went, they would be more aware and responsive to the needs of their children, and as a result, their pre-divorce custody decisions could be negotiated in a more open and cooperative way, thereby avoiding the need for numerous post-decree court appearances.

It was decided that the Children First Program would stress the needs of the children to their parents. There would be a video program containing six vignettes portraying situations dealing with the most frequent areas of conflict and re-litigation; visitation; child support and custody arrangements. Both parents would be required to attend a two-hour class facilitated by a Masters Degreed professional. Parents completing the class (s) would receive certification necessary before receiving a final Judgment of Dissolution. The Children First Curriculum is not meant as “counseling,” but is intended to serve as “education.” Dr. Dan Cuneo, a Belleville area psychologist, one of the original developers of the curriculum, has said: “Most people truly love their children, but they end up getting blinded by their hatred or distrust of the other party. I’ve seen so many kids get hurt. Something had to be done!”

The Children First Program was created by the Children First Foundation (which is a 501c 3 nonprofit), to provide licensure to organizations throughout the country to conduct the Children First Program. The program operates under court mandate and supervision. It is currently licensed in 30+ court districts across the United States and Canada.

New Kid First & Teen First Programs

KID FIRST and TEEN FIRST treatment programs for children and teens experiencing parent separation or divorce will be released in the Spring of 2013. Both programs were created by Dr. Jeremy Jewell and Chelsey Christ, M.S., and are based on current research and best practices for helping children cope with divorce. The KID FIRST program is designed for children grades kindergarten through 5th grade while the TEEN FIRST program is designed for preteens and teens 6th through 12th grade. Both programs are based on the following assumptions:

  • Parental separation and divorce has become a common family process in our society
  • Kids and families can be taught new skills
  • Allowing kids to express their thoughts and feelings regarding parental separation and divorce is critical
  • Social support within and outside of the nuclear family can help children adapt

The KID FIRST and TEEN FIRST programs are designed to be implemented by mental health service providers including psychologists, counselors, and social workers in schools, agencies, or private practice. Both programs consist of 8 sessions with 2 additional sessions that are optional, which are outlined below:

Kid First

Teen First

Core Sessions

Understanding Divorce and Separation Understanding Divorce and Separation
Normalizing Divorce Problems and Changes Transitions Related to Divorce and Separation
Blaming and Arguing Teen Vs. Adult Responsibilities
Divorce Reactions and Expectations Communicating Feelings with Family
Communicating Feelings How to Cope with Parental Conflict
Gaining Social Support Gaining Social Support
Building Cognitive-Behavioral Skills Building Cognitive Skills
Thinking Positively About the Past and Future Positive Aspects of Divorce and Separation

Optional Sessions

New Partners New Partners
Relaxation Training Relaxation Training

 

For more information on how you can preorder the Kid First and Teen First programs, contact sarab@children1stfoundation.org.